At Your Own Pace | 5-Piece Curved Dilator Set

designed to help you explore penetration gradually, comfortably and without pressure.

At Your Own Pace is a five-piece curved vaginal dilator set designed to support gentle, gradual vaginal insertion across five progressively increasing sizes. Beginning at 13.5 mm wide and increasing to 32 mm, the set allows you to start with whichever size feels manageable and move forward only when your body feels ready.

Vaginal dilators may be used by people who find vaginal insertion difficult, uncomfortable or painful. This may include people experiencing vaginismus or an overactive pelvic floor, where the muscles surrounding the vagina tighten involuntarily or struggle to relax. Dilators may also be recommended by a healthcare professional following childbirth, pelvic or vaginal surgery, pelvic radiotherapy, or when scarring or vaginal narrowing makes penetration, tampon use or internal examinations more difficult.

Made from smooth medical-grade silicone, each dilator has a tapered tip and gentle curve designed for more comfortable insertion. The finger loop at the base provides a secure grip and greater control during use, while the fully waterproof, non-porous surface makes each piece easy to clean.

This set can help you gradually become more familiar and comfortable with vaginal insertion at your own pace. Where dilators have been recommended because of persistent pain, surgery, treatment or another health condition, they should be used in line with guidance from an appropriately qualified healthcare professional.

typical RRP: £39.99
our price: £34.99

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✨ Big Sister’s Cheat Sheet ✨

Set size: Five progressively sized vaginal dilators

Widths:

• Size 1: 13.5 mm / 0.55 inches
• Size 2: 18 mm / 0.7 inches
• Size 3: 22 mm / 0.9 inches
• Size 4: 26 mm / 1 inch
• Size 5: 32 mm / 1.25 inches

Size range: Small to large

Shape: Gently curved with tapered tips

Material: Medical-grade silicone

Colours: Pink and purple

Waterproof? Yes

Power: None required

Handle: Finger loop on each dilator for greater grip and control

Perfect for: Gradually becoming more comfortable and confident with vaginal insertion

May be suitable for people experiencing:

• Vaginismus or involuntary tightening around the vagina
• Difficulty relaxing the pelvic-floor muscles
• Discomfort with tampons, penetration or internal examinations
• Vaginal narrowing or scar tissue
• Changes following childbirth, pelvic surgery or vaginal surgery
• Changes following pelvic radiotherapy or other medical treatment

Compatible with: Water-based lubricant

What’s included?

• Five curved vaginal dilators in progressive sizes
• Discreet storage bag
• User instructions

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💌 A Note From Your Big Sister 💌

There’s no deadline and no correct speed for working through a dilator set. Begin with the smallest size that feels manageable, use plenty of water-based lubricant and focus on slow breathing while giving your body time to relax. You don’t need to move up simply because you’ve used the previous size a certain number of times.

Gentle pressure or stretching may feel unfamiliar, but sharp or worsening pain should never be pushed through. Stop if you experience pain, bleeding or anything else that concerns you.

If penetration is persistently painful, you are recovering from surgery or childbirth, or you’re considering dilators because of a health condition or medical treatment, speak to a GP or another appropriately qualified healthcare professional. This product is not a substitute for personalised medical advice.

Your order also includes one of my in-depth guides, so you’ll have everything you need to approach each step calmly and confidently.